Monday musings

We carry within us the wonders we seek without us
— Thomas Browne
We recently (July/August 2017) accidentally shot an entire roll of film on one photo; it came out as a pretty amazing portrait, actually

We recently (July/August 2017) accidentally shot an entire roll of film on one photo; it came out as a pretty amazing portrait, actually

Just a short little post to start off the week... So, this quote points to a concept that I often find to be soul-saving; it is a source of solace even in my most moody, self-deprecating moments. I like to break it down in two ways:

First, what we seek in the world, and especially in others, is a direct reflection of ourselves. What we find to be so beautiful, so wonderful, in other people, we probably have within us. I have realized over the years that I connect with all of my very best friends for the same reasons. For me, that means a shared curiosity about the world, an ability to talk about any and everything for hours on end, and an unconventional sense of fun (that goes beyond the usual drinking and partying route, though we occasionally appreciate that too). Bottom line - the qualities that people look for in others are often different, but what we love most about our friends across the board must in some measure reflect us as well. Which by default means that we should love ourselves much more than we tend to. 

On the other end of the spectrum, the qualities that repel us in other people, we probably don't ourselves have. I am not sure why this is not more self-evident to me, but for some reason it's just not. I often fear that I do things that I don't like in other people; but then I think that, most probably, I don't, because if I did I wouldn't recognize my distaste for those things. You know?

Okay, maybe I'm not explaining this as eloquently as I would like to. But next time you have a moment when you're like, I just LOVE my friends for XYZ reasons, just know you have those qualities too. It's like looking in a mirror for your soul.

Just a little food for thought on a rainy Monday morning :)